What mixed feelings this reminder brings up. It was a moment I was proud for completing a huge mission - completing my doctorate. It was also a moment of massive relief. It was a moment of gratitude for the people who helped me including supervisor, family and peers. It was a moment of anxiety that the reviewers would be ruthless. It was a moment where I felt like a weight had lifted off my shoulders. It was a moment of uncertainty about what exactly was coming next.Read More
Meditation beautifully introduced. It really is simple at its essence. Being - we breath in, and breath out. But, we make it hard by adding layers of expectation. We expect meditation will 'make' us feel better. We expect we will just 'remember' to do it in our busy lives and 'magically' commit the effort to practising everyday for extended periods of time. Layer upon layer of expectation we add until it all feels too hard, and we feel shit for not doing it. A great antidote for this cycle, as it turns out, is to meditate... I see you vicious cycle - and I raise you one mindful breath! #(En)Lighten Up!Read More
When I get gripped by fear and stress, I can get tripped up by patterns of thinking and feeling that undermine my ability to be effective.
I've had a lot on my mind lately, and have really needed to practice what I preach to work through fear and stress.
But where did these patterns come from, anyway?Read More
A little message for when my daughter Ayla grows up.
Life is a decathlon, not a marathon.
We all have many events in our lives. It's exciting. It's scary. It's scarily exciting.
We want to perform at our best.
We want to be our best.
We want to give our best.Read More
Embrace the opportunity for a little play, savour simple pleasures while you're there, and move on with enthusiasm for what is next.
Tonight as I was settling 15 month old Ayla for bed, it seemed as though she had other ideas.
Bright-eyed and squealy, she wanted to play more than go to sleep. That being said, she was super tired and just doesn't yet understand to let go into sleep.Read More
Average time it takes to get back to performing a task following interruption.
Proportion of all interrupted work we need to resume on the same day.Read More
When everything gets super serious.
When you spend your weekend balancing fun times with even more work on those passion projects.
It's useful to lift your eyes up and notice the fun that can be had.
Choose to balance productivity with playfulness.Read More
"What is the meaning of my life?"
The meaning explored in this question refers to why my life is important to me. Questions about the meaning of my life tend to open up more questions and prompt me to reflect on what I'm doing and why, how I'm living, and who I am.Read More
Here's a preview of a model in my upcoming guidebook on Mastering Mindfulness. This short post will give a brief overview of the model.
I think a lot. I contemplate how I live. I look at the different tasks I engage in and consider what they require of me versus what I demonstrate. I think about my relationships and interactions. I think about my habits, routines, and tendencies. I reflect on what I believe I can do better in different parts of my life - i.e. the personal, professional, and social domains. Taking all this into account, I try to estimate the percentage of my day my behaviour fits in each of the quadrants.Read More
I want to develop a Samurai mindset!
Here is my training:
1. Meditation Practice
Samurai culture was strongly influenced by Zen Buddhist and Confucian philosophies, so meditation practice was key.Read More
Mind: Did the choices you made today reflect the best of you?
Mind: Did you achieve meaningful progress today?
Adrian: Not really. Yeah, not super satisfied with my Monday.
Mind: Did you feel like your Monday happened to you - that there was little opportunity for choice?Read More
Step 1. Assume the 'Vulcan' Hand Position
Make the "Vulcan sign" with your right hand (see above image of Spock for a reference).
Modify your vulcan by curling your ring finger over your pinky, and your middle finger over your pointer.
Bring your pointer finger to rest between your eyebrows.
I wanted Ayla to get well quickly because it's hard seeing her in pain.
I wanted to be able to support Sarah more this week given how challenging things have been with Ayla!
I wanted to get more work done this week!
I wanted to get more writing done on my book today!Read More
I've trained and practiced the bajeebuzz out of thinking through my studies at uni and through life experiences and relationships. Think think think think think...
When we train something a lot and practice something regularly enough, we typically get better at it. We develop our capacity. We get stronger. This is true for a great many things. I believe I have become a better thinker through training and practice.Read More
I like what this image conveys and it prompted me to contemplate.
We have the ability to be thoughtful.
We have the ability to turn up our curiosity and creativity.
We have the ability to adopt a new perspective.Read More
I've got a big presentation on mindfulness with Nike tomorrow and it was on my mind as I tried to settle Ayla off to sleep.
Our little treasure has been so sick and in pain from teething that zzz's were elusive. So, there was nothing else for it but cuddle time.Read More
Sunday's turn into Monday's. We have no power over changing it, so we deal with it. Sometimes the way we deal with it doesn't really deal with it at all. For example, some of you might start to think about and plan work stuff on a Sunday. This may feel like - or indeed may be - useful preparation. Or, it may be an unhelpful and unwelcome distraction from enjoying a Sunday while it's happening.Read More
So it's half way through the experiment - day 25 of 50. I've been living what I've learned, and been learning even more as a result.
Little gestures do make a difference. Thanks goes out to those who have been following along. I've been encouraged by messages that have come through. I'm rapt people are finding the posts are valuable little reminders. Some people have felt they've got some new tips to try and practice. Others have enjoyed a little smile or a laugh. I hope we can continue to (En)Lighten Up! together over the next 25 days - and beyond of course :)Read More
It was a cold and rainy day in Melbourne today. I had a frantic Friday with back-to-back meetings and events rounding out a huge week.
The rain poured as I nervously made my way by scooter from the CBD to St Kilda. I arrived drenched, but hell bent on grabbing a coffee and a quick snack between one meeting and the next. I needed to keep my energy up.Read More